Archive | February, 2011

Definition of a Lame. What is it Really?

21 Feb

Lame. The William from Girlfriends Way. How do you describe that?


The usual topic and conversations about lame dudes is a highly referenced one, but not a very transcendent one in my opinion. Ladies, what do we really mean when we write a guy off as lame and therefore undateable? Fellas, can a woman be a lame? To me the lameness phenomena is quite puzzling.  Certain instances of lameness are more marked while others aren’t. For instance, if a guy has Pokemon pics in his FB photo album, uses played out slang terms, wears Phat Farm, posts shirtless so-called modeling photos as his profile pic and/or texts these pics, or makes immature sexual jokes he is a certifiable lame! But what about those inexplicable lame qualities?

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Love Jones, Chloe, Muscles, Friends, and God = V-Day!

14 Feb

For everyone following my blog, I apologize that I have not been able to write in the last two weeks. My life as a wanna be, future socialite, Real Housewife of NYC in training is in full swing so who has time to blog? No, seriously I have been so busy with life and having a fab time while doing so that it has been impossible for me to sit still and collect my thoughts around my love life journey. However, I could not let HisandHerSinks miss it’s first Valentine’s Day!  As a part of my journey I would be remiss not to acknowledge the novelty, romance, bull-ish, and beauty of V-Day. It’s been some years, 5 to be exact, since I had a real Valentine or celebrated with a significant other, but being the hopeless romantic that I am I refuse to dismiss or give up on the meaning (whatever it is) of Valentine’s Day. So, however random and displaced here are some persons, places, and things on my mind today. This is my celebration!

Love Jones The Movie. This movie is one of my all time favorites in close compettion with Disappearing Acts. I actually only saw it for the first time this past year but it has inspired the way I look at love and relationships. One of my favorite bloggers, Champ of VSB, wrote about his recent discovery of the movie and it’s relevance, so I’m glad that I’m not the only one who slept on this movie for nearly 14 years. What’s most romantic to me about Love Jones  is the hussle, the ups and downs the way it highlights the nuance of love’s flaws but never exhausts the possibilities. Romance to me is what we have left after the storms of the relationship…the strings that hold it altogether in the end. This is one of my favorite clips


Chloe Perfume. I sampled this perfume for the first time a few weeks ago and have been in love ever since. To me it is so inviting, yet bold and feminine (Me!). There is nothing like a new scent to remind you of happy thoughts, self- love, romance, and beauty. Basically when I smell good, I feel good and that feeling for me carries into new possibilities and an openess to other lovely things… love and romance. I may just but myself a bottle today. This is going to be my Spring 2011 signature scent.

Friendship. Today is one of my good friend Mimi’s birthday. Happy Birthday, Mims! She is such a beautiful woman and spirit that it is only right for her birthday to be on Valentine’s Day. When I graduated from grad school here in NY I was so worried that I would not find the right group of girlfriends as many of the friends I had made left the city after graduation. I met her at the end of the school year and I have to say she has changed my life really and truly! She has helped me to realize my dream as a social entrepreneur, welcomed me into her lovely circle of friends, and has been such a fine role model for what it means to be a authenctic, self-loving, supportive, beautiful…..A Woman.  I just adore her and all of my other friends (HMami, S4TP, Sarah, Javon, Karyn, Kim G., Christina, Xanthe, Alicia). These women have all helped me to learn more about myself and never stop supporting me! Ok, so let me stop before I become “verklempt and s***” as Champ would say.

Men. Dark, brolick, handsome, and charming ones sorta like this one…..that’s all!


God. I recently started going to church again and I could not be happier. I forgot the peace and joy that comes with living a full spiritual life. I am excited about where my relationship with God will lead me within myself and in love.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours!

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